THE MESSY BUSINESS OF SURVIVING – how to be an ally to survivors of sexual violence
*TW* Recently, I found myself in stark stage lights, with five cameras directed at me, telling an audience of 1200 how I'd been raped when I was sixteen years old. Next to me on the stage was Tom, who raped me after a dance at our high-school. Together, we gave a TED talk that summarised a 20 year long process, whereby Tom shouldered responsibility for his actions and the way they impacted our lives. It was viewed nearly 2 million times in the first week and the overwhelming
